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Conversation Heard At the Soccer Game

Monday, August, 18, 2008

At one of my son’s soccer games I overheard a conversation, which should have been private;  it sort of felt like watching one undress, like going through somebody else’s dresser digging through undergarments.  But there I was on the bleachers sitting behind a two people who should have been home having this conversation, should have been in a counseling office, someplace else.  It didn’t matter.  Apparently, they were in the moment and didn’t’ give a damn who overheard.  Here is the conversation as I heard it:

Woman:   So, why didn’t you come home last night?

Man:        I don’t want to talk here.

Woman:  Well, I can’t seem to catch you any other time.  I will talk here. Now.

Man:        I stayed at……

Woman:  Oh, I know where you stayed, you son-of-a-bitch.

Man:       Why are you asking then?  Why bother?

Women:  What do you want?

Man:        I don’t know anything. I don’t know what the hell I want or    what I want to do.

Woman:  Your kids, do you give a damn about them?

Man:       This is about us.  Lower your voice, please. 

Woman:  What do you want?

Man:       I told you. I don’t know anything right now. I don’t know what  I want.  My mind is spinning.  There is only one thing I am sure of...

Woman:  And what may I ask is that?

Man:      I don’t want you.

That was the end of the conversation.  I heard no more.  I’m not certain how the woman felt at that moment, but I am quite convinced she wanted to die, or at least, curl up into a little ball someplace, but she watched the rest of the soccer game. As for me, I felt as if somebody punched me in the stomach, too. Somehow, I suddenly became part of the woman’s well being, her instant girlfriend.  I wanted to go and hug her, tell her I understood, say her husband was a cold hearted snake, ask her if she needed a cooked meal, a glass of wine, something...anything. I knew she’d never be the same, and I wanted to comfort her.  I couldn’t.

After the game, I watched the woman and man walk to separate vehicles without talking.  It seemed symbolic, the man walking one path, the woman walking another. It broke my heart.

~ Has your heart ever told you to say something, but your brain told you to mind your own business?

 


getaclewis
getaclewis
Posted Mon, 08/18/2008 - 08:35
Ouch. What a sad story. (What I did glean, though, was that you would make a very good friend.) "Trust Life's unfolding..."
sarahthequeen05
sarahthequeen05
Posted Mon, 08/18/2008 - 13:40
There have been a few times when I heard something or learned something but wished I hadn't, because something needed fixing or correcting and I wasn't in a position to do either. This must have been so hard to overhear, especially at a location where their kids obviously were.
Charlene Ross
Charlene Ross
Posted Tue, 08/19/2008 - 08:37
That is so, so yucky. Yeah, I would have wanted to say something to her too, but probably wouldn't have. Maybe at the next game you could ask her how she's doing if her son is on your son's team? I say she's better off without him though.
sinetta
sinetta
Posted Mon, 08/18/2008 - 20:41
How heartbreaking. I wouldn't have known what to do if I'd overheard those words. What's worse is she likely had to go home and put on a smiley face for her kid just to get through the night. How difficult her evening must have been. I think befriending her at a later date is a great idea.